The season of gift-giving is here and I couldn’t be more excited. If you’ve ever read (or even heard of) the Five Love Languages, then you would understand that gift-giving is my secondary love language; the careful process of thought, searching, wrapping and giving a gift is so important that I would rather not give a gift at all than to give a person the wrong gift. It isn’t always easy, that. Sometimes I don’t know a person well enough to know if what I am giving them is really the right gift. In these cases I try to incorporate something I know they can at least use.
A few months ago, gracious hostess Julie Blanner opened her home to me while I was in town for a quick blogger trip. If you’ve ever read Emily Post’s Etiquette, you know you should never show up empty-handed as an invited guest; rule of thumb: if there is a host or hostess, you should bring a gift. If you are invited to a holiday party and the host asks you to bring a dish or dessert to share with the guests, that counts as a “gift.” If you host a girls’ weekend and provide tickets to an event, that counts as a “gift.” The only time it would be inappropriate to bring a gift is if they clearly state on the invitation (or in a phone call, email, etc.) no gifts – don’t offend them by ignoring their wishes. I gave Julie a homemade gift in a Weck jar – was it going to rank in her list of top ten gifts ever received? I’m pretty sure that would be a no. Was the Weck jar something I know she would use over and over again? Yes.
All that being said, I often have to resort to guessing (school teachers, new friends I don’t know that well, neighbors, the mailman…..) Rather than resort to gift cards (sometimes a necessary evil, I know) I like to find gifts that can be used in multiple ways, and worst case scenario – re-gifted (cringe!)
So what’s the best gift to get for hostess who loves to entertain? Anything pretty and made of clear glass. The pretty red glass might tempt you, but remember what I said about multi-purpose gifts? You can fill these with colored drinks, candies, cookies, leave it empty with a big satin bow on it or heck – add a goldfish for something whimsical!
Looking for gifts? Head to the Ross Dress for Less facebook page for a chance to win a $200 gift card to help with all of your gift-shopping this holiday season! Stay tuned for next week’s gift guide: toys (and another chance to win Ross Dress for Less gift cards!)
Guide to Gift-Giving:
- make it multi-functional
- never show up empty-handed
- be clever – even if the gift is a basic glass pitcher, add some water and a goldfish for a gift they will always remember 🙂
- Casual Kids party? I don’t drink wine, so I bring a bottle of Strawberry Pop instead (the kids love me.)
- Red Velvet Popcorn – an instant winner in any gift-giving contest (Red Velvet Popcorn Recipe via Inspired by Charm)